I've recently began watching the whole Sex and the City series from start to finish because I was such a big fan of the movies and the occasional episode I saw on TV. I have to say that I am in love with the show and I think it touches on so many important issues and topics related to women. It touches on the good, bad, and ugly of relationships and dating. Watching these women date man after man makes me think of my own dating past. I've never had to "date" anyone before and I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.
I've been in two serious relationships in my life. My first started my Senior year of High School and lasted for three years well into my college years. My second started a couple months after that break up and is my now Husband. I have never had to go out and actively seek a date before. Both guys I've been with were sort of handed to me...or just happened?
My first was the best friend of my friend's boyfriend so they introduced us and we met for the first time at my school's homecoming game. We double dated with our friends all the time and stayed together for 3 years which is pretty good for only being 17 when you meet. My now Husband was a friend from my freshman year of High School. We lost touch for 6 years after he joined the Military and our relationship started over one small Facebook message.
Never have I gone out to a bar or museum looking for a man to keep me company. Never have I joined a dating site or placed a personal ad somewhere. The longest I have been single in the last 5 years was for 2 months and during that time I wasn't even thinking about having a boyfriend. I was just focusing on me. Before I was 17, with my first real boyfriend, I never cared about having one because I was having a blast being a kid and hanging with my girlfriends. It's just weird to think of myself in the dating world. I seriously think I would still be single because I'm so shy and it's hard for me to warm up to people and be myself.
In a way I am glad I never had to date because there are a lot of shallow asshole men in the world and I would have to deal with that and the feeling of being rejected and lonely. I would get discouraged when things didn't work out and I don't like feeling that way. On the other hand, it would have been fun to meet new people, learn about them, and have more experience.
What does everyone else think about dating? Sick of it, scared of it, glad you never had to worry about it?